Robin sent me an email re: bonding. Lumabas ito sa Phil. Star and was written by a female, Ms. Cecile Lopez Lilles. As I’ve said before, forwarded emails are pakshets most of the time, lalo na ‘yung mamalasin ka kapag di mo ipinasa ang kabwisitan sa iba. Pero himala, binasa ko ang forward na ‘to. Nabuo ko ha! Madalas kasi I just read keywords and that’s it, I’m done. That’s speed reading for you hehe.
Tama kasi lahat ang sinabi niya. Why is there such a thing as “male bonding” but no “female bonding”? Can’t we females bond? Hmm…palagay ko hindi nga. Alam ‘nyo, mas marami akong barkadang lalaki kesa babae. Because I can bond, guys, I can definitely bond hehe! I love boys. They’re such a mystery to me when it comes to forging friendships.
Mag-inuman lang ng ilang beer sa kanto, sabay-sabay na magsusuka, biglang mag-kumpare na paggising kinabukasan. They can be friends forever mula sa pagkabata hanggang sa maputi na ang buhok nila at tadtad na ng salonpas ang katawan. Sabi ng ibang girls, marami raw commitment issues ang mga guys. If that’s not commitment, I don’t know what else to call it.
I consider one of my favorite movies, Stand By Me, the best representation of male bonding. It’s just perfect. Bakit hindi makagawa ng ganoong istorya tungkol sa female bonding? Hindi kasi magiging realistic.
These are generalizations but males tend to cover up for their buddies’ indiscretions, ‘di ba? Females will even tend to tsismis their own girlfriends. Nai-intriga kasi agad tayo ng mga intriga. Males don’t give a damn. Kaya mabenta sa ating mga babae ang mga soap opera eh.
Boys enjoy the company of other boys sa mga aktibidades na “for the boys”. Girls would prefer the company of other girls sa shopping lang, I think. Kailangan may deep emotional sharing pa ang mga babae para masabi nating we “bonded”. Mas maganda kung may kasama pang iyakan ‘to. But boys can just sit around or watch a basketball game together and they are friends for life.
Sa totoo lang , girlfriends, tell me, aabot ba sa sampu ang mga babaeng tinuturing ‘nyong “tunay” na kaibigan? I betcha marami na ang lima. Ask a guy how many friends he has. Isang baranggay na ang binabanggit niya, hindi pa siya tapos. Every Tom, Dick and Harry na na-meet niya ay kukumbidahin na sa kasal niya. They’re just so sosyal, I tell you.
It doesn’t mean naman na we females are not “true friend” material. We can be, ‘yun nga lang, dadaan ka pa sa butas ng karayom. I really can’t explain why. Pero mahilig naman tayong mga babae sa rebonding, ‘di ba?
Thanks, Robin.
P.S. Sino kaya sina Tom, Dick and Harry? Bakit walang equivalent ito sa girls? Tsk. So unfair.
buti na lang nagustuhan mo. finorward ko yan sa madaming tao, and i think same ang response. though may mga nagsabi na sobra miinsan, to the point na magsisinungaling na ang isang guy para hindi mapahamak ang kaibigan. code of silence nga talaga. depende na lang yan sa tao.
well said, women tend to have few intimate friends like me I only have 3 closest friend and one of them, I consider the best of the bests nothing can replace her! I do have female acquaintances but that remains like that, di ko sila kinumbida nung kasal ko!
ate ella:
si aida, o si lorna, o si fe…
I plead guilty to saying na takot sa commitment ang mga lalaki. Pero, what I meant was, committing to a relationship with the opposite sex in a romantic form. Kasi nga, tayong mga babae, we demand too much out of it. We look for not only a partner, but a best friend out of them. Guys can only go either or. Rarely both. Kaya nga ‘di ba, we girls tend to still have a girl-best-friend on the side?
As for me, I’ve had quite a few best friends along the way. And yes, the number surpassed the total number of fingers I have on both hands. But recently, I found myself going back to the one I’ve considered best more than a decade ago. Because she still is the best.
The thing about male bonding is what you see is what you get. Kaya madali sila magkasundo. At hindi madali mag away mga guys, usually kung parehong mature very serious yung subj kaya sila nagaaway.
Wow! I like boys too!! Lolz, I mean I like how friendship is meant to boys kaya prefer ko maging kaibigan ang boys. Naranasan ko lang yan nung magkaroon ako ng best friend na lalaki. Iba sila talaga mag appreciate ng ideas ng mga tao. They never hide something they don’t like.
It’s hard for girls to do the same. Lagi kang mgkakaroon ng kaaway e.
hi ella,.
love ko ung duck,.
love mo ung boys,.he he he,.
hi ella!!! musta ka na??? pag mga lalaki nagbubulungan may mga sikreto yan na pang boys lang… meaning wag sasabihin sa mga girls. pag mga girls naman nagbulungan, tsinitsismis nila ibang girls o boys o dog U
Miss U na!!! Ingat!
Ei Robin,
Code of silence—well it just shows na hindi talaga mahilig ang mga lalaki sa intriga, Iwas-gulo sila hangga’t maaari. We thrive on intriga, there lies the difference hehe
Hahaha natawa naman ako sa Maxi. Di konti lang ang guests mo. Oist nalamangan ka sa bilang ni hubby hehe
Mistiquo dear,
Ano yun? Pelikula yata yon ah, Pero pwede na hehe. Good one.
Hi des,
Pareho tayo. Parang kumokonti nga ang mga kaibigan kong babae. I mean, lately parang di ko na ma-take ang mga shallow conversations namin eh. Parang hinahanap ko na ang deeper feelings ba. Bale dalawa na lang ang natira. Dati labindalawa yata kaming barkada.
Hi Jr,
Correct ka diyan. Most of the time, nagkakatampuhan ang mga babae sa petty things. Kasi, I think, you guys tend to “do” things together. Like experience the things you like with other guys. We girls usually don’t.
Hi Sham,
Exactly! Boys talk straight. Walang maraming issues. Maraming girlfriends na “fake”. They say something but they mean another. I really don’t know why they do this.
Hi ohme,
Yup, love ‘em. Guys are cool friends.
Uy Jiken may darling friend! Oist miss ko na ang ating chats na no holds barred hehehe. See, sarap makipag-usap sa guys. You are one good example, my friend!
ate ella:
kanta ni marco sison yon