Love Should Feel Good - a message from a friend

My friend Mike sent me an email. It made me think and ask…is it the real thing? Hindi ako mahilig sa mga ganitong paga-analisa but sometimes it helps. Lalo na kapag tatanga-tanga sa pag-ibig na tulad ko. Medyo mahaba siya eh. Teka, himay-himayin ko nga ito…

Love Should Feel Good

“Often in our lives, we fall prey to the idea of a thing rather than actually experiencing the thing itself.”

Hmmm…ang ibig sabihin ba nito I’m in love with the idea of love, but not with the person? Yup, heard that one before. Baka nga. Tingnan pa natin ulit.

“…as we grasp for what we think we want and fail to find it, we may suffer and bring suffering to others. When we suffer more than we feel healed, we can be fairly certain that what we have found is not love but something else.”

Hmmm…feel healed…ano kaya ang ibig sabihin nito? Nope, I don’t think I’m suffering. But to be honest, my heart was broken not too long ago. Nevertheless, I’m fairly sure this new feeling I have for Merkano is not for healing my pain, nope. Do I need to be healed first? No, I don’t think so.

Soulmate was my first true love. I admit that. I was willing to do anything for him, without a second thought. But it was not meant to be. I also recognize the fact that no two loves are the same. And bless my dear heart, I am able to love again. Hindi nga lang ganoon katindi.

“When we feel anxious, excited, nervous, and thrilled, we are probably experiencing romance, not love.”

Hmmm…nope, I don’t feel any of those. Flattered, maybe? Nah! Hindi ako basta-basta napa-flatter. Ang Inglis ba ng kilig eh thrilled? Close enough.

“Romance may lead to love, but it may also fade without blossoming into anything more than a flirtation.”

Hmmm…now we’re talking. Yes…I think we flirted for a while. And it was exciting of course. But jeez, we flirted sa YM? And over the phone? Shet, I don’t even believe in online romance. It’s so easy to say “I love you, baby” sa YM. Kahit paulit-ulit. Parang template na lang siya kahi’t sa texting. I think it was part of the kilig factor.

But, Mike dear, I do miss him when he doesn’t call…

“If we cling to it and try to make it more, we might find ourselves pining for a fantasy, or worse, stuck in a relationship that was never meant to last.”

Hmmm…fantasy…you might have something there, dude. A beautiful wedding is every girl’s dream. Nuff said..for now.

“Real love is identifiable by the way it makes us feel. Love should feel good. There is a peaceful quality to an authentic experience of love that penetrates to our core, touching a part of ourselves that has always been there.”

Hmmm…I think I know what the writer meant. True love connects to your inner being and settles there. This good feeling gently touches the soul. All you want to do after that is share…give…make the one you love feel good like you do. And not expect anything in return.

“When people truly love us, their love for us awakens our love for ourselves.
In this way, true love never makes us feel needy or lacking or anxious.”

Well said…yup, even if we have PMS, we won’t feel anxious, needy…. or insane.

“…true love empowers us with its implicit message that we are, always have been, and always will be, made of love.”

Aaaaaw! We are made of love! Bago ‘yon ah. Wait…lalo yata akong nalito, Mike. Katulad nga ng tanong mo sa akin noong isang araw, di ba? Am I really ready to take the plunge? To tie the knot? To love this man I don’t even know forever and ever till death do us part?

Wait….teka lang….waaaaah! Shet, dude…now, I’m not sure. Hey, do you think I need more time?

Hmmm…let’s see… he’s there, I’m here. What we need to do is spend more time together para lubusang makilala namin ang isa’t isa. So, dapat lumipat ang isa sa amin sa ibang bansa, right? I hope it’s not me. Ayokong umalis dito eh.

But, know what, dear? If he asks me to… I will. Does this mean I’m in love? Yes, Mike, my friend, that’s what it means.

Yours forever,

~ by ella on March 26, 2008.